Today was an interesting day in change management. In my job, I enjoy a certain neutrality of my position. Since I don’t develop software or test the software, I have no vested interest in either party’s position on an issue. As an outsider looking in, it’s amazing to me how people can turn an easy conversation into a really painful one with a minimum of effort. This particular battle royale was between the Quality Assurance organization and a Tools Development team.
Let me start of by saying, both groups are in the wrong. For one, the tools development team developed a tool for the QA department to use. How they accomplished this I’ll never know, since they failed to actually involve their customer, QA, in the requirements work. Bad idea number one.
As for QA, under most circumstances they’d be in the right to refuse delivery of the product, but this isn’t a free market. It’s a company. Clearly some senior leader decided that QA needed said tool or it wouldn’t have been built in the first place. QA was not in a position to flatly refuse. They were justified in asking for some changes. How they asked for the changes, though, was bad idea number two.
So here’s a play by play of the entrenchment of both sides:
QA representative: “We have some issues with the template we use to load the data into the tool. We need X, Y and Z done to it.”
Tools team representative: “I don’t understand why you need X, with our tool, X is pointless.”
Repeat point A and point B ad nauseum until I interrupt. As each team argues his or her side, the other team digs in.
This is as close to verbatim as I’m willing to get without worrying that the two people I’m quoting above might read my blog and say “hey, that’s me!” Nevermind the frustration that I’m feeling because I prepped said QA representative for how the conversation should have gone. What’s the point of preparing someone if they don’t listen?
Let’s pick apart the QA rep’s word choice. Words like “issues” and “need” have no place in the start of a negotiation. Absolutes are not negotiating. If I say my car is for sale for $10,000 firm, that means I am not discussing a lower price. Negotiation is over before it could begin. You could literally see the members of the tools team just clench up at this statement. The Tools team rep’s words were really no better, but I didn’t prep them for the conversation so no surprise there. “I don’t understand why you need…” says “I’m smarter than you and have already solved your problem.” Of course, this offends the customer since it is clearly untrue.
Here’s how the the conversation should have gone:
QA rep: “We’re encountering some resistance helping you guys roll out the tool. I got a chance to meet with some of my folks to understand what their concerns are and I think we can smooth things over by helping them to put their fingerprint on the template.”
There’s a lot different about this statement, obviously. First off, the QA rep indicates that s/he is interested and willing to help the tools team roll out the tool – “I’m on your side.” From there, “I met with some of my folks” indicates, “it’s not me who has an issue, I’m here advocating for a bunch of people, however foolish they may be.” And finally, “helping them to put their fingerprint on the template” says “here are some changes we’d like to see made.” Look closely and you’ll understand that this is the exact same statement that our actual QA rep made very badly. This statement has the same goal, but this statement avoids the entrenchment in “our” position.
How do I know this second statement would work? I waited until the teams were done arguing and the meeting was over and I sat down with the tools team manager and said exactly that! And guess what, despite the disastrous first hour meeting, I got the exact same thing our QA rep wanted but without an argument.
And what did I give up for it? Well, I had to put my tail between my legs and ask them for “help.” Do I like doing it? No, it always makes me feel a little dirty, but it works very reliably. This goes way back to my very early post about appealing to someone’s ego. Being deferential to a person who has something you want puts them in an artificial position of power. People like being in control and using their largess to help poor me out. They think “there’s nothing wrong with the tool I created, but these poor stupid QA people have no clue and if I must come down to their level and speak in small words, so be it.” And indeed, what QA was asking for were minor concessions in the big scheme of things. So it wasn’t a complete lie.
I’m continually amazed how people think that they can come in with anything at all, and because his boss or her boss said to do it that they believe it now carries sufficient weight that it will simply occur. People fail time and time again to recognize that if you both don’t report to the same boss (and even if you do) that you can’t expect people to think your ideas are a priority. Get over it and learn how to work someone else’s ego to meet your needs.
“Diplomacy is the art of letting someone else have it your way.” – Daniele Vare.