I was having a chat over lunch with my coworker about a situation at work that had parallels to his role as the chair of a town committee. My friend (who incidentally is the inspiration for a lot of my comments based on our lunchtime conversations) was trying to get volunteer members of the committee he’s on to do more than just show up – to actually do something and take action.
Very much like his situation, there are some people I work with who I’d like to take some action. And yet, because these people don’t work for us, in our respective situations, we seem to be unable to influence them to action.
Suddenly, as we were talking, I realized there was something different about these situations from other situations of influencing that I’ve ever written about. In most of the situations I encounter, influencing has been about directing a course of action. The person I was influencing was already on some path, spurred to activity by who-knows-what. The path they were on either conflicted with my goals or while well intentioned wasn’t going to meet my goals. I could effectively use influencing skills to steer someone.
But bringing someone to act isn’t the same as steering someone. Why is it that not just me, but many of my peers, that seem to have trouble overcoming inertia? We refer to it as the corporate “nod”, where someone says yes to you verbally, but no action actually ever comes of it. Could it be that influencing cannot create action?
I’d liken it to trying to move a stubborn donkey. Not that I’ve ever actually tried to move a donkey anywhere, so forgive the metaphor. To get the donkey moving, you give it a little bit of the stick. Once moving, steering is an easier activity, you can just pull the reins to turn his head and the body will follow.
I see two possibilities:
Option 1, there are levels of influencing skill. No skill (a complete inability to make anyone do what you want), skill in steering (where I’m at) and skill in using influence to spur action. If this is the case, then there’s a technique that I need to pick up to create action. I’ve seen people try to create action by name dropping or thinly veiled threats to escalate the situation. I don’t get the sense that these techniques are effective – we make fun of people who name drop after they leave the room.
Option 2, influencing is incapable of creating action; it can only steer. If this is the case, then both my friend and I are out of luck. Or are we? If we can still steer a person, even if we can’t start them off down the path we want, what if we sense they are eager to start down a path, any path at all, that is similar to the path we want? If they will move to act on their own, even on the “wrong” thing, help them do that and then maybe you can use steering to get them where you want them to go.
I’m grasping at straws here. There is an answer to the conundrum, but I don’t know what it is yet. Have any ideas?
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